How To Treat And Deal With An Alcoholic
The goal now is to show how the whole family can support sobriety. The family members have a variety of contradictory feelings and attitudes about drinking. These feelings and attitudes have to come to light and comment. Families can also make changes to help the person maintain sobriety without endangering their own family welfare. They should restore the channels of communication and care for one another. Family responsibilities should be redistributed.
Leisure and enjoyment should be improved. Throughout this series of things, it is necessary that the whole family is involved in the treatment.
- Reasons for a change
Achieving change is difficult for the whole family. You need time and effort, assuming that there are risks, so the whole family must feel that changes are needed. Stop now and examine your reasons for supporting sobriety and make changes. For example: All family members are very nervous with each other and also do not talk much. Separation is something that will certainly happen unless things improve. Make use of the lines below to make a list of negative things.
Good and strengthening things you will be sure to achieve if you all work together and support sobriety.
Now make a list of positive things that will occur if you do all of this.
It takes a long time for family members to trust the affected person with alcohol problems to remain sober. Most often, that trust has been replaced by doubt. This is natural and should be recognized by all. If people are nervous because they distrust the family member continue to drink, it is good to express it properly. For example, you can say, “You have worked hard to stay sober. I enjoyed being with you all this time. But you’re late several nights after leaving work and you seem quite concerned. I wonder if you’re having problems with drinking again. “This way of expressing the concern may encourage your family to discuss the situation much better than if you’re angry, you smell his breath or if you view up and down and you keep your suspicions.
Lack of confidence is unpleasant for everyone and can become a trigger (it would be something that arouses the desire to drink. Examine several ways in which family and family members with alcohol problems can trust each other:
- Developing good communication among all family members.
All family members may solicit contributions are to create new paths of communication, alternatives to drinking or avoiding triggers.
Family members should know the objectives of the person with alcohol problems and how you meet them. Remember, it is for him or her to go ahead with their plans.
Family members must show respect and consideration for the affected one/s.
If the family understands what is driving your family member to drink, what are the changes he or she will make and what changes he hopes the family will dew, this will serve as a starting point to restore again family trust with respect to the alcoholic at least for a certain period of time. Family members can and should use family therapy as places in which to express their lack of confidence so we can deal with it. However, the trust needs some time to recover. This should be transmitted to the person with alcohol problems from time to time especially if he or she feels that the family does not trust you with your alcohol problem.
For most alcoholics, one of the biggest obstacles to achieve sobriety and improve relations is the problem of communication, which has non existing during his drinking periods. Complaints and small unreported feelings may gradually begin to grow into unsolvable problems. Moreover, the family may be making mistakes by not communicating their feelings for fear that may affect their sobriety.
We have to take into account some bad communication styles to be avoided in the future:
Not listening or pretend you’re listening to the speaker (the husband watching television or reading the newspaper while his wife is speaking)
Taking a serious joke, (the wife may laugh or make jokes while her husband complains about his problems at work)
Excuse to avoid confrontation and / or seem hopeless or depressed. This makes the family members do not show their anger responses and therefore never face the problems.
Honest and direct communication is the increasing possibility for sobriety. The long term goal is to learn to express as clearly as possible and learn to listen with empathy and without judgment to others. Sometimes it may be necessary to interrupt a discussion and continue it later if angry feelings become so intense that the discussion becomes a vicious circle.
Family therapy, couple and group therapy are the recommended places to develop and improve communication skills.
- Share responsibilities again
People dependent on alcohol and his family must again re-establish the responsibilities of the drinker.
He or she must again share the responsibilities of children, the family budget and perform household chores, Family members should not prevent the alcoholic assume their responsibilities.
- Dealing with alcohol problems affecting the family
There are several issues concerning the social use of alcohol, and the family should discuss that. The whole family, including the person with a drinking problem, you should discuss the pros and cons of having alcohol at home. The final decision should be based both on what is best for the withdrawal of the affected one, as in the decision to have alcohol at home for others to drink, but never forget that you must bear in mind that the fact that there physical proximity to a person drinking and alcohol problems is not yet sufficiently prepared to refuse a drink, there drive or desire to drink will be unstoppable in the first moments, as his self-control is not yet sufficiently established.
The whole family should discuss whether to go to social meetings where there is alcohol involved and then decide if family members should drink in front of the alcoholic. This should be an open topic of discussion, and be taken into account every time there is a similar social situation. The feelings change over time and some situations may be more dangerous than others.
- Methods to recognize and overcome temptations
It is normal for the alcoholic to still feel urges to drink. Especially at first, and may not be able to anticipate problems that may arise. Maybe because of the lack of alcohol, sometimes note irritability, depression and sometimes have excessive reactions. In extreme cases the person may even appear to be intoxicated (drunk).
These impulses toward drinking have no major problem if the person is prepared for them and has options to use if these impulses arise. Thus the longer you are sober and increased awareness of the triggers, the easier it is to avoid detection and prevention is becoming too strong or that you really take a drink.
For the family is important to recognize these situations, moments, etc. Which arouse the desire to drink and support when they happen. It may be helpful for family members to recognize the triggers, alternatives and purposes of their family with alcohol problems and also suggest to him or her to use these alternatives to get the desire to reduce drinking and to achieve what they want without alcohol.
- Improving the use of free time
Both the family and the patient should enjoy during sobriety. To achieve quality sobriety is necessary to convert it at a more pleasurable than the periods in which they drank. It is important that all family members enjoy being next to each other so that all changes are easier and possible to do.
Do not forget that to reward one another makes everyone feel good and continue to make constructive changes.
- Recognition and development of changes
It is important for all family members to give up old ways of behavior that proved very bad in the past.
Some general rules to remember when making changes and awards are:
Talk about the changes you want with your partner to ensure that the acceptance and understanding
Calls for changes and prizes you really want, not what you think your partner wants.
The following is a list summarizing the changes that family members can take to improve the quality of sobriety and family relationships:
Improving communication and expressing the most direct way possible thoughts and feelings of every one of you. Interrupt the conversation if it becomes too controversial and continue later.
Listen carefully to each other, respecting differences of opinion.
Book a time of day just to talk.
Set daily goals, short and long term.
Spend some time in the day just to relax.
Begin to share responsibilities again.
Make compliments to enhance the good feelings.
Establish commitments so that everyone gets a fair deal.
Develop appropriate monitoring plans in order to maintain the changes achieved.
Talking openly about the problems associated with alcohol.
Talking about the temptations and urges to drink and support the positive changes achieved over time.
Let the person with alcohol problems take responsibility for drinking or not drinking.
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